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Post time 25-10-2020 12:16 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts |Read mode
Salam,  Mya dah berkahwin 6 tahun anak 2. Recently, buat pap smear & HPV test.  The test come positive. So based on reading n consultation with my gynae, it is sexually transmitted disease. Maksudnya transmitted during sexual intercourse.

Sepanjang hidup hanya ada seorang partner iaitu husband. Maka, mya confront husband. Adakah dia pernah ada sexual intercourse with other woman. He denied. Dan mya bagi syarat, lafazkan taklik jika betul tak penah. Dan selepas paksaan he did that, jika pernah, maka jatuh talak 1.

Being a woman, hati masih tak sedap. Masih terfikir. Jika bukan dari husband, maka mcm mana mya boleh dapat HPV ni. Selepas desakan demi desakan, maka husband mengaku, pernah dan ada sebelum kawin. Long long time ago.  Entah lah jika itu jawapan how i got this virus. Btw, HPV can linger in the body for years.

Hati memang hancur dan berderai. Sekarang dalam proses untuk tanya pejabat agama, adakah taklik itu sah dan jika ya dan terima pengesahan sah, adakah perlu Mya rujuk kembali dan melupakan semuanya. Kisah berlaku lama sebelum kawin, masa kiteorg baru-baru kenal dan adakah tak pernah berlaku lagi selepas kawin?  

Kalau ada pandangan dan experience how to deal with this kind of situation. Mohon advice ya.

Tq







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Post time 25-10-2020 12:20 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Serius ke Hpv bleh kekal dlm badan for years??
Sblm dgn uols, berapa orang partner yg suami uols dah tido sama?
Kalau sorang tu je, then pompuan tu pernah tido dgn byk jantan mmg possible pun kannn
Uol dah pi pejabat agama ke
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 Author| Post time 25-10-2020 12:25 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
evlinne replied at 25-10-2020 12:20 PM
Serius ke Hpv bleh kekal dlm badan for years??
Sblm dgn uols, berapa orang partner yg suami uols da ...

According to my gynae yes. Dia boleh kekal dalam bdn lama. Tapi boleh jadi dormant, tak active. Tapi boleh transmit to others as well tru sexual intercourse. Yang dia mengaku sorang. Tapi few times. Entah betul entah tidak  tggu pejabat agama bukak esok.
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Post time 25-10-2020 02:06 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kesian u .. Btol ke kisah silam je... Hpv ni come from Sexually ACTIVE adults. He maybe cheating u... Korek lg... Confront mmg tak ngaku punya... Cuba tgk hp dia etc.. Btw, taklik dh jatuh.. Before buat decision nk rujuk ke tak, better confirmkan dulu btol or not he cheating u. If btol, future maybe it can be happen lg. If kisah silam, terima lah seadanya. Jgn diungkit lg.
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Post time 25-10-2020 02:24 PM | Show all posts
fuhhh berat masalah ni...
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Post time 25-10-2020 02:45 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Consult pjabat agama dl.

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Post time 25-10-2020 02:46 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Puan..menarik lah isu ni .saya terus buat carian .apa tanda2 awal puan atau pn hanya pergi utk pemeriksaan kesihatan shj pd mulanya
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 Author| Post time 25-10-2020 03:11 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
CardiGans85 replied at 25-10-2020 02:45 PM
Consult pjabat agama dl.

Insyaa Allah. Esok akan disegerakan.
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 Author| Post time 25-10-2020 03:12 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
MisXoXo replied at 25-10-2020 02:46 PM
Puan..menarik lah isu ni .saya terus buat carian .apa tanda2 awal puan atau pn hanya pergi utk pemer ...

Tiada tanda. Baru dapat anak 2nd few months ago. Saya pegi untuk pasang iucd & in d same time buat pap smear & my gynae advised untuk buat skali HPV test.
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 Author| Post time 25-10-2020 03:14 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
biksu replied at 25-10-2020 02:06 PM
Kesian u .. Btol ke kisah silam je... Hpv ni come from Sexually ACTIVE adults. He maybe cheating u.. ...

Entah lah. I dont know hoe to korek lagi sbb ianya sangat menyakitkan hati. The more i korek, the more i tahu n hati sakit.
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Post time 25-10-2020 03:32 PM | Show all posts
so if yg prmpuan dpt nsb mcm tu.. yg lelaki ape kesannya kpd kesihatan?
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Post time 25-10-2020 05:04 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
mya.adreanna replied at 25-10-2020 03:11 PM
Insyaa Allah. Esok akan disegerakan.

Kena redha la mya. Maafkan suami. Apa2 tpulang pada tt.

Sy ade kenalan yg dpt siflis drpd suami dan tanda2nya mmg ketara sampai mata pun merah bengkak. Dia bercerai sbb kecurangan berlaku time berkahwin.

Arwah nenek sy minta dia minum air rebusan daun inai sambil jumpa doktor.
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Post time 25-10-2020 11:53 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Tak perlu nak korek lagi tt. Benda berlaku sebelum tt berkahwin dgn husband lagi. Boleh ubah apa2? Rasanya tak ada. Berbaloi utk bercerai-berai disebabkan kisah sebelum kahwin? Rasanya yg tu tt boleh pertimbangkan sendiri. Ada apa2 husband abaikan tanggungjawab sepanjang perkahwinan? Tu pun tt boleh jawab sendiri. Kalau ada, mungkin jadi boleh jadi faktor utk berpisah.

Taklik dan lafaz cerai bukan benda boleh buat main2. Bila tt minta husband lafazkan taklik tu, maksudnya tt dah bersedia utk apa2 yg terjadi disebabkan lafaz tu, bersedia utk berpisah..
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Post time 25-10-2020 11:59 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by hmzh.h at 26-10-2020 12:00 AM
biksu replied at 25-10-2020 02:06 PM
Kesian u .. Btol ke kisah silam je... Hpv ni come from Sexually ACTIVE adults. He maybe cheating u.. ...


HPV tu mmg sexually transmitted disease, yg mana selalunya disebarkan bila ada multiple partner. Tapi kena faham maksud SEXUALLY ACTIVE adult tu jugak sis. Maksud sexually active tu bukannya pasal org yg ada byk partner ataupun bertukar2 partner sahaja. Any married couple pun dikira sexually active adult, unless mmg dia tak ML lah dgn husband atau wife dia. Kalau tak sexually active, takdelah tt dapat anak 2nd
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Post time 26-10-2020 08:28 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
hmzh.h replied at 25-10-2020 11:59 PM
HPV tu mmg sexually transmitted disease, yg mana selalunya disebarkan bila ada multiple partner. ...

I faham married couple pun sexually active. But ada ke married couple yg yg sexually active with 1 partner kena sakit kelamin? I bold utk tt faham it meant for sexually active yg tukar2 partner cuma taknak sebut je...  MAYBE husband tt sexually active dgn mcm2 perempuan sblm kawen, atau he currently sexually active mcm2 perempuan slps kawen atau dia ada satu awek je dulu tp awek dia yg main mcm2 lelaki. Semuanya MUNGKIN. Kmungkinan mana yg sesuai dgn laki tt, tt je yg tahu laki dia perangai camne dlm 6 thn kawen ni
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Post time 26-10-2020 10:06 AM | Show all posts
tt nnti update perkembangan pjbt agama tu..
iols nak tahu stand pjbt agama..tq
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Post time 26-10-2020 11:13 AM | Show all posts
ingatkan HPV ngan HIV sama tapi rupanya lain..
tgk kat google munkin bole hilang sendiri..langgar kulit sama kulit pon bole jangkit..
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Post time 26-10-2020 04:24 PM | Show all posts
Semoga TT dipermudahkan semua urusan.
Kalo i dikasut TT, i mmg akan minta cerai. Tak sanggup nak hadap suami yang tak pernah jujur.
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Post time 26-10-2020 04:29 PM | Show all posts
Semoga dipermudahkan tt.. sabar banyak2 ya.. ujian untuk awak & anak2.. jaga diri
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Post time 28-10-2020 10:12 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
mya.adreanna replied at 25-10-2020 12:25 PM
According to my gynae yes. Dia boleh kekal dalam bdn lama. Tapi boleh jadi dormant, tak active. Ta ...

I hope u confront n he bagi jawapan betul2 kat uols
Pi pejabat agama consult dgn dorang
Harap u jumpa jawapan yg u cari dan iols doakan ada sinar baru dlm hidup u lepasni..
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