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chicsee

tu ah , jadi parents tak senang ah..   kongkong salah, tak kongkong salah.

Betul tu Deaf, memang serba salah di buat nya. Yang belum ada anak tu I think belum tau lah parents punya perasaan macam mana. Risau teramat risau. Ya lah sekarang aje tengok budak2 terror2. Tak kira yang lelaki mau pun pompan. Zaman anak2 kita nanti lagi lah....entah macam mana...:geram:

cranko21

ni baru2 ni pasal mayat baby baru lahir kat tepi lift tu....
entah siapa punya kerja laaaaaa..... kuang ajar betul!

berapa ramai kapel yg nak anak tak dapat.. kasi ajer la for adoption......
ko buang gitu.. kan ke dosa.... (&**^$$%&*&*()&*()

chicsee

Originally posted by cranko21 at 30-3-2004 09:36 AM:
ni baru2 ni pasal mayat baby baru lahir kat tepi lift tu....
entah siapa punya kerja laaaaaa..... kuang ajar betul!

berapa ramai kapel yg nak anak tak dapat.. kasi ajer la for adoption......
k ...

Betul tu Crank...sedih Chic baca cerita2 macam ni...tapi diorang belum tau kan bangsa apa baby tu?

Originally posted by chicsee at 2004/03/30 10:00 AM:


Betul tu Crank...sedih Chic baca cerita2 macam ni...tapi diorang belum tau kan bangsa apa baby tu?

lu dah ada baby ker chic?

sutera_abadi

Astaufirullahalazim..........

Derang yang buat kerja terkutuk ni betulll laaaa.....
memang nak kena kutukkkkk........ ngan wa.... :agr:

Originally posted by cranko21 at 2004-3-30 09:36 AM:
ni baru2 ni pasal mayat baby baru lahir kat tepi lift tu....
entah siapa punya kerja laaaaaa..... kuang ajar betul!

berapa ramai kapel yg nak anak tak dapat.. kasi ajer la for adoption......
k ...

deaf4ever

Originally posted by herokampong at 29-3-2004 10:24 PM:


def / chics...

Tak lah... tu citer lain. Ni quite recent.... like maybe 6 mths back ajer... Budak primary 5 kalau tak salah... cina...

Tapi pasal tu citer punjabi nyer family, aku  ...

ah budak cina pri 5 pulak?

ni yang terjun pagi2 tu eh?

dia cakap bye nak pegi sekolah...tapi bukan naik lift turun bawah, tapi naik lift pegi tingkat atas eh?



pri 5 = 11 tahun kan?

deaf4ever

Originally posted by nixzanna at 29-3-2004 11:15 PM:
Nixz paling tak suka kalau dia orang nih nak commit suicide bikin pat blok.... carilah tempat lain

ah ah la...kesian ah residents kat situ...trauma habis...


lagi, kalo dah berkecai semua...kadang2 masa dorang clean eh, dorang miss out a few spots, jadi tak terkejut after 48hrs masih jumpa sisa2 otak ke...:


lagi satu kan, kalo roh dorang tak aman, habis la...kena kacau la residents kat situ.

cranko21

Originally posted by sutera_abadi at 30-3-2004 12:37:
Astaufirullahalazim..........

Derang yang buat kerja terkutuk ni betulll laaaa.....
memang nak kena kutukkkkk........ ngan wa.... :agr:

Harap2 bukan budak Melayu Islam kita la......
napa pendek akal ehhh??

dah la buat dosa .... dia tak gugurkan dah ok.. ni dah ko penat2 & sakit2 beranak ko buang ajer cam tu buat apaaaaaaa??? kan ke tambah dosa?????
nf:nf:nf:

deaf4ever

Originally posted by chicsee at 30-3-2004 10:00 AM:


Betul tu Crank...sedih Chic baca cerita2 macam ni...tapi diorang belum tau kan bangsa apa baby tu?

dah mati kan budak ni bila ada resident tu jumpa?

deaf4ever

oo ni masuk new paper ah...

ni wa tampal ni -





Another baby left like this
SO SAD...

Comment By Trudy Lim

IT happened just a short walk from my daughter's school.




I have walked in that area several times a week for the last five years, taking my children to and from school when they have extra classes or activities.

But some time on Saturday night or Sunday morning, a woman apparently went into labour and gave birth at the lift and lobby area of Block 623 Senja Road.

And the newborn baby girl was found abandoned, dead in a yellow plastic bag yesterday afternoon.

The signs point to a woman or girl who went into labour suddenly and probably gave birth alone - a pool of blood was seen in one of the block's two lifts on Saturday night.


Several residents said this morning that they had seen the blood stains.

The mother could have been unmarried or a teenager - scared, confused and desperate to get rid of the 'problem'.

According to residents in the area who talked to The New Paper this morning, the block is quiet and quite deserted at night and during the weekends.

One man, who identified himself only as Mr Shariff said: 'After 10 or 11pm the lifts are not much used. They are busy only when children are going to school and people are leaving for work.'

My heart goes out to the two girls in this case - the mother and baby.




I remember long ago, babies would be left outside convents. That way, distraught mothers could be sure the babies would be taken in and cared for.

We are more affluent now, but it seems things have not really changed that much.

There are still babies being abandoned.

With all the recent talk on a shortage of babies, we need to focus some attention on the few unwanted babies who are slipping through the cracks.

Each time I walk in the area now, watching toddlers in the playground, and the children lugging their heavy schoolbags, I'll be thinking of one baby girl who wasn't given a chance.
- Additional reporting by Stephanie Lim



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Remember her?



THIS little girl was one of the lucky ones.

She was found by 10-year-old Samuel Tan near a staircase in his Ang Mo Kio block in January 2000.

She had been abandoned in a paper bag on the eve of Hari Raya that year. The healthy baby girl was temporarily named Baby M and would be 4 years old this year.


OTHER CASES:

Baby boy found dead in rubbish dump in Jalan Tenaga in October last year
Baby girl found dead in Commonwealth MRT toilet in March last year

sutera_abadi

kiut nyer baby niii.............  
sedih wa nengok baby ni......... :cry:
kenapa lah manusia semakin nak kembali ke zaman jahiliah......

astafirullah...kejamnya perbuatan manusia2 yg sanggup buang bayi ni...kadang2 keadaan mereka memaksa some to resort to this.:hmm::hmm:...

deaf4ever

korang tahu cerita ni kan?

bekas setiausaha PERGAS dah buat hal...

Padahal untuk aku , Pergas ialah organisation islam tempatan yang paling aku respek.

cam mana ah? kalo geng2 baik pun ada yang buat cam ni?

takut ah kat spore, hari ni orang ingat kita baik, besok kita masuk paper kena tuduh cam2...



Singapura : 2 April 2004   
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BICARA KES DADAH MUHAMAD MOHAMAD ISHAK

HAMLI NAFI ADAKAN PARTI SEKS DENGAN MUHAMAD
Oleh
Chairul Fahmy Hussaini

BEKAS pengarah eksekutif sebuah syarikat logistik, Hamli Mohd Salleh, menafikan di mahkamah semalam bahawa dia dan rakannya, Muhamad Mohamad Ishak, mengadakan parti seks sewaktu berada di Ipanema World Music Bar pada malam 1 Julai lalu.

Hamli, yang dipanggil sebagai saksi pendakwa, berkata: 'Ia bukan parti seks tetapi perjumpaan biasa dan jika ia (seks) berlaku, ia berlaku. Jika tidak berlaku, ia tidak berlaku. Kami ke sana hanya untuk berhibur'.

Dia memberi keterangan apabila mahkamah menyambung perbicaraan ke atas Muhamad, 38 tahun, yang dituduh menghisap dan bersubahat mengimport ganja.

Hamli, yang sedang menjalani hukuman penjara 12 bulan sejak Disember lalu kerana menghisap dan memiliki ganja, juga berkata Muhamad tidak sekalipun menyataan kesediaan mengadakan wanita bagi tujuan seks atau parti seks.

Dia juga menyatakan 'kesilapannya' membawa masuk tiga paket kecil ganja seberat 5.64 gram, yang dibelinya di Kuala Lumpur, hingga mengakibatkan mereka ditangkap sekitar 12.15 tengah malam pada 2 Julai lalu di Hotel Strand.

'Saya tidak ingin menawarkan (dadah itu) kepadanya (tertuduh) kerana ia adalah untuk kegunaan saya sendiri. Ia adalah satu kesilapan untuk saya membawa dan menghisapnya di Singapura sebelum pergi ke kelab itu,' katanya.

Semalam, perkataan 'barang' sekali lagi ditimbulkan dan Hamli menjelaskan di hadapan Hakim Daerah Roy Neighbour mereka sering menggunakan perkataan itu sebagai merujuk kepada 'wanita' dan 'bahan yang boleh meningkatkan kemampuan seks'.

Hamli mendakwa dia tidak menjelaskan kepada Muhamad bahawa 'barang' yang dimaksudkannya kali ini dalam beberapa perbualan mereka di telefon ialah ganja.

Dia juga mengaku tidak sekalipun memberitahu Muhamad yang dia telah meletakkan ganja dalam ruang bahagian depan kereta rakannya itu.

Dalam perbicaraan lalu, Hamli dan Muhamad mengaku menyedut beberapa kali sebatang rokok mengandungi ganja sewaktu di besmen tempat meletak kereta di Orchard Towers dalam perjalanan ke Ipanema.

Setelah ke kelab itu, mereka bersama dua teman wanita warga Uzbekistan - Nargiza Abdurakhmanova dan Olesya Vylgina, kedua-duanya 21 tahun - pergi ke Hotel Strand.

Mereka diberkas di bilik 407 dan 408 bersama teman wanita masing-masing.

Perbicaraan disambung hari ini.

deaf4ever

Originally posted by deaf4ever at 3-4-2004 03:47 AM:
korang tahu cerita ni kan?

bekas setiausaha PERGAS dah buat hal...

Padahal untuk aku , Pergas ialah organisation islam tempatan yang paling aku respek.

cam mana ah? kalo geng2 baik pun  ...

sambungan - siap ngan bilang pasal pakai baju tak pakai baju lagik.. :malu::malu::malu:


Singapura : 3 April 2004   
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BICARA KES DADAH MUHAMAD MOHAMAD ISHAK

HAMLI DAKWA KERJASAMA BERI KETERANGAN KEPADA CNB KERANA TERTEKAN
Oleh
Chairul Fahmy Hussaini

BEKAS pengarah eksekutif yang didapati bersalah menghisap dan memiliki dadah, Hamli Mohd Salleh, semalam memberitahu mahkamah dia memberikan kerjasama kepada Biro Narkotik Pusat (CNB) dalam memberi keterangan kerana berasa tertekan selepas ditangkap.

Hamli, 38 tahun, berkata dia berkeadaan demikian setelah diberitahu seorang daripada tiga pegawai CNB yang bersamanya ketika berada di ibu pejabat biro itu bahawa dia mungkin dikenakan tuduhan 'mengimport' ganja yang membawa hukuman sekurang-kurangnya lima tahun penjara dan sebat lima kali.

'Kata-kata pegawai itu menyebabkan emosi menguasai fikiran dan saya gagal berfikir dengan betul hingga saya memberikan kenyataan-kenyataan yang tidak tepat,' katanya.

Dia berkata demikian ketika memberi keterangan semalam dalam perbicaraan ke atas Muhamad Mohamad Ishak, 38 tahun, yang dituduh menghisap dan bersubahat mengimport ganja.

Hamli juga memberitahu mahkamah tujuannya ke Hotel Strand bersama Muhamad dan teman wanita mereka selepas berada di Ipanema World Music Bar di Orchard Towers adalah kerana ingin mengadakan hubungan dengan wanita yang baru dikenalinya itu pada malam 1 Julai lalu.

Ketika ditanya Hakim Daerah Roy Neighbour apakah yang sebenarnya ingin dilakukannya di Hotel Strand, Hamli berkata: 'Biar saya katakan secara terus terang untuk mengadakan hubungan sulit, saya rasa.'

Hamli yang kini sedang menjalani hukuman 12 bulan penjara berkata dia dan Muhamad sebenarnya hanya menuruti ajakan teman wanita mereka, Olesya Vylgina dan Nargiza Abdurakhmanova, kedua-duanya 21 tahun, untuk ke Hotel Strand di Bencoolen Street.

Dia mendakwa tidak sekali pun mempunyai rancangan untuk ke tempat itu pada awalnya.

Tidak lama selepas dia dan Muhamad memasuki bilik 407 dan 408 Hotel Strand bersama pasangan masing-masing, bilik itu diserbu sepasukan pegawai CNB sekitar tengah malam 2 Julai lalu.

Ketika serbuan dibuat, Hamli berada dalam keadaan bogel manakala teman wanitanya, Olesya, separuh bogel.

Dalam perbicaraan lalu, Hamli dan Muhamad mengaku menghisap sebatang rokok mengandungi ganja sewaktu di besmen tempat meletak kereta Orchard Towers dalam perjalanan ke Ipanema.

Hamli juga mengakui meletak dua paket kecil ganja di bahagian depan kereta Muhamad tanpa memberitahu rakannya itu bahawa paket tersebut dan rokok yang dihisap mereka sebenarnya adalah ganja.

Dia juga mengaku bahawa dia sebenarnya membeli ketiga-tiga paket ganja seberat 5.64 gram itu di Kuala Lumpur dan bukan dari rakannya, Zaharudin Mohd Nor, seperti yang dinyatakan dalam kenyataan sebelum ini.

Perbicaraan disambung lusa.

deaf4ever

Originally posted by LoLiPoP at 3-4-2004 08:42 AM:
dunia dunia...

semalam masuk berita - lagi dua orang lelaki cina murdered kan?

apa nak jadi

ah ah,,  apek 40 lebih tahun kot, dia ikut nyonya ni balik rumah nak tolong nyonya tu kemas barang. Tapi husband pada nyonya tu marah la , tak kasi nyonya tu ( wife dia ) keluar...

gaduh gaduh terus kena bunuh...

kesian ah....     pasal pompuan pasal bini sampai bunuh orang.



lagi satu pun apek kot, dalam mercedez benz wooo gaduh2 sampai kena bunuh...

abis la, makin tinggi ah murder rate kat spore ni macam..

Originally posted by deaf4ever at 3-4-2004 01:46 PM:


ah ah,,  apek 40 lebih tahun kot, dia ikut nyonya ni balik rumah nak tolong nyonya tu kemas barang. Tapi husband pada nyonya tu marah la , tak kasi nyonya tu ( wife dia ) keluar...

gaduh gad ...

my friends cakap,,,dia orang rather go geylang and pay,,,,then get involved with a married woman...macam ni sudah mess up kan ???

chicsee

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 4-4-2004 11:50 AM:


my friends cakap,,,dia orang rather go geylang and pay,,,,then get involved with a married woman...macam ni sudah mess up kan ???

TApi kan Matz, the heart works in mysterious ways...when it comes to matters of the heart, tak kira lah married, unmarried, gro, callgirl, boleh pall in lap gak...thats why they say, a man and a woman can never stay platonic friends...

deaf4ever

wei kawan2...

ni masuk new paper semalam kot...


lagi satu ah nak terjun 17 tahun girl...tapi dapat diselamatkan....

nak refer Woodbridge dah...kesian ah...
tak tahu pulak bangsa apa ye.


TAMPINES ROOFTOP DRAMA
Girl holds rescuers at bay with metal rod

But when she gets distracted...

By Arul John

FOR nearly an hour, a construction worker tried to persuade a 17-year-old girl to get off the roof where he was working.






She threatened to jump from the top of the 13-storey building if he came near her.

The man tried to convince her to leave and do his work at the same time.

It is not known why he did not seek help for such a long time.


But finally, after failing to persuade her, he called his supervisor and told him about the girl.

That is how the drama started yesterday morning at an HDB block on Tampines Street 83.

Around 8am, the construction worker, who was working on upgrading the block's lifts, climbed up a ladder leading to the roof.

He unlocked a metal sliding gate and pushed up another metal cover before getting up on to the rooftop.

The girl is believed to have climbed up the ladder on to the roof at 8.30am.

The worker's supervisor, who did not want to be named, told The New Paper: 'As the worker went up and down that ladder often during his work, he did not lock the sliding gate. The girl must have gone up that way.

'After noticing the girl on the roof, he told her to get off. He kept telling her this for nearly an hour in between doing his work.

'She threatened to jump off the building if he came near her. He then called me and I called the police.'

While on the roof, the girl picked up a 1.5m-long metal rod from among the materials on the roof.

Madam Norsiyah, a housewife in her 30s, told The New Paper: 'I was passing along the corridor of the opposite block and saw the girl walking near the rooftop water tank, waving the rod and shouting.

'She looked agitated and was very aggressive.'

A police spokesman said they were informed of the incident at 9.40am.

The Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) was informed at 9.44am and was at the scene within minutes.





OTHER RESCUE TEAMS

An eight-member Disaster Assistance & Rescue Team (Dart) and 12 other SCDF personnel arrived from Changi Fire Station.

They came with a fire engine, ambulance, special rescue tender and damage control tender.

They had a life pack, an inflatable cushion designed to break the fall of people from high places.

An SCDF spokesman said that minutes after they arrived at the scene, the life pack was rolled out and inflated to form a cushion 28.3 sq m in area and nearly 2.7m high.

This was placed on the ground below her to break her fall in case she jumped.

An SCDF paramedic and a female SCDF officer then teamed up with some police officers to talk her into getting off the roof.

The girl stood beside a 3.5m-high water tank.

The SCDF and police officers stood 2-3m from her and tried to talk to her.

But each time they moved towards her, she shouted at them to stay away and waved the rod menacingly.

A crowd of onlookers gathered below.

Meanwhile, away from her view, the Dart team climbed onto the rooftop using ropes, from the 13th storey.

They got behind the tank, scaled it and then moved quickly and silently towards the girl.

They watched the girl and the negotiating team from their height and waited.

At 10.15am, the Dart members noticed that the girl was distracted.

They then jumped from the water tank and grabbed her.


She didn't have a chance to react.

Moments later, the Dart members took her down the same ladder she used to climb on to the rooftop and took her to the void deck by lift.

DIFFICULT TO RESTRAIN

She was gritting her teeth as she came into public view and rescuers had a hard time restraining her, as our picture shows.

The girl, who does not live at the block, was taken by ambulance to Changi General Hospital.

The rod was not with her and may have been thrown away when she was being brought out of the block.

Two men who claimed to be working for the firm doing the lift upgrading declined to allow us up on the rooftop later, as the upgrading was still in progress.

The woman, whose identity was unknown, has been referred to the Institute of Mental Health.

The police said they are investigating

deaf4ever

kengkawan...
korang tengok ah Singapore, bukan manusia je stress...

monyet pun stress ....     

nasib baik bukan keluarga Ah Meng, kalo tak lagi teruk ah semua sedih...

kesian ah, mula2 kena karen, lepas tu kena tembak, lemas tu lemas kat reservoir - dahsyat ah




Monkey tries to escape but...

Celebrity chimp climbs over electric barriers and is shot with a tranquilliser dart gun. But she runs straight into a reservoir

By Teh Jen Lee

AFTER the bustling crowds of the weekend, it was quiet at the zoo on Monday morning.

But all was not well in the chimpanzee enclosure.

For some reason, 6-year-old Rhamba was agitated.


It was possible she was being bullied or chased by the other 12 chimps in her enclosure.

She was upset enough to climb over the electric barriers on a tree.

She was zapped with electricity at least once but this was not enough to stop her from fleeing her 'home'.

A zoo worker saw her escape and alerted others who rushed to the scene.

One of them, probably a vet, fired a tranquilliser dart at Rhamba.

The dart hit the primate on her stomach but it did not stop her in her tracks immediately.

Her instincts told her to run, so she did.

Zookeepers dashed after her but they were no match for Rhamba - a chimpanzee can run much faster than a human.

She ran through two animal exhibits, straight into the Mandai reservoir.

And she drowned there before the zookeepers could get to her.

This is the first time in recent years that a chimp escape has been reported at the zoo.

Back in 1997, a zoo chimp scratched a visitor on a Saturday evening when it was on the lose for 10 minutes.

Staff had to disperse 1,000 visitors for safety reasons.

Rhamba was a celebrity of sorts in the zoo. Like Ah Meng, she had been one of the zoo's photo-taking chimps.

Born in July 1997, she was separated from her mother at birth and raised by humans.

After being trained to pose with visitors, she was kept in a cage so she could be produced easily for photography.

In 2001, she was returned to the chimp enclosure, which is about the size of a basketball court. There, she was reunited with her mother.

When The New Paper interviewed some frequent zoo visitors, some wondered whether the workers could have tried other ways of catching her, such as with nets.

Ms Alison Ng, 30, a zoo volunteer for four years, said: 'I know it's SOP (standard operating procedure) to tranquillise, but I would think it applied more to big animals like tigers and elephants.

'Since this chimp is quite used to human contact, maybe they could have got a keeper to try and calm it down first. If they did, but it started being agressive, then it's another story.'

Ironically, Rhamba's death happened on the day The Straits Times published a report on the zoo's new general curator, Dr Ken Gold, a primate expert. He started work on Mar 15.

When contacted, Dr Gold, who has worked with captive chimpanzees, gorillas, and orang utans for many years, said in a written reply: 'Standard operating procedures to safeguard visitors and animals necessitated the tranquillisation of the chimpanzee.'

Dr Shirley McGreal, who founded the International Primate Protection League (IPPL) in 1973, said the zoo was correct to try to tranquillise Rhamba.

'But it was most unfortunate that the chimp reached a location near water. Chimpanzees cannot swim,' she said.


The Singapore Zoo declined to say how many visitors were nearby when Rhamba escaped.

Could Rhamba have been coaxed back into the enclosure?

After all, as a 'photo chimp', she was used to human contact.

For a while in 2001, she was even ferried around by her keeper on a bicycle.

The zoo said it was investigating 'all of the events surrounding the escape and recapture attempt to determine the contributing factors leading to this isolated incident'.

Dr Gold said: 'The zoo has exhibited chimpanzees for 32 years in natural social groups and has had 29 successful births. Such incidents are rare and we are very sad over the tragic outcome.'

Modifications have been made to the exhibit to prevent such an incident from happening again, he added, without elaborating.

Animal welfare activist Louis Ng had got to know the chimpanzee when he was a volunteer in 2000.

He launched his first campaign to pressure the zoo to stop photo-taking with the chimps, claiming that he saw Rhamba being punched in the face to make her behave.

He went on to set up the Animal Concerns Research and Education Society.

Responding to Rhamba's death, Mr Ng said: 'To say that I am devastated is an understatement.

'I remember the times she would come and hug me, seeking comfort when times were hard.

'I would not be fighting for the rights of animals if not for her.'


Story Index

deaf4ever

Originally posted by matz_rockz at 8-4-2004 09:59 AM:


i always tell my son....you do and try your very best....even if you fail...i will not fault you...but i say ,make sure you give and HONEST effort.

'

ko tengok matz, budak ni 15 tahun dah mengadu sampai masuk sokkabar....

kesian jugak ah.....





Rencana : 9 April 2004   
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TERTEKAN IBU TERLALU MENGONGKONG
SOALAN


SAYA seorang remaja perempuan berusia 15 tahun. Baru-baru ini, ibu saya membaca buku mengenai helah remaja hari ini. Sejak itu, saya dapati beliau semakin keras mengongkong saya dan semakin mencurigai saya.

Setiap kali saya pulang lewat, setiap kali saya minta wang untuk membeli keperluan sekolah, maka setiap kali itu juga beliau akan menyoal siasat saya dengan pelbagai pertanyaan.

Kalau saya pulang ke rumah terlewat dari masa yang beliau tetapkan, maka telefon bimbit saya akan berbunyi tanpa henti. Beliau jadi semacam remote control yang mahu mengawal setiap pergerakan saya.

Akibatnya, kini saya juga semakin tertekan. Saya akui bahawa tidak semua rakan saya adalah remaja yang sihat aktivitinya. Namun, saya juga mempunyai rakan yang baik, rajin belajar dan sentiasa saling ingat-mengingati.

Jadi apa yang harus saya lakukan untuk menenteramkan ibu saya?

Saya mempunyai seorang adik, dia juga perempuan dan baru berusia 11 tahun.


Rima.


JAWAPAN



AYA dapat memahami perasaan anda.

Suka saya tekankan di sini agar anda berhati-hati kerana dalam keadaan stres dan amat tertekan ini, anda lebih terdedah kepada pengaruh negatif.

Dengan lain perkataan, dalam situasi tertekan ini anda lebih mudah dipengaruhi unsur-unsur negatif bagi tujuan 'membalas dendam' kapada ibu anda kerana menganggap kongkongannya agak keterlaluan.

Kemungkinan ini berlaku kerana anda tidak dapat mengawal perasaan marah anda.

Saya bimbang kemungkinan anda mengambil tindakan nekad bagi memuaskan hati dan perasaan anda.

Terdapat anak-anak remaja yang bertindak melulu kerana kecewa dengan sikap ibu bapa yang suka menuduh anak mereka terlibat dengan kegiatan yang tidak sihat dan kerap memarahi anak mereka kerana suka bergaul dengan kawan-kawan yang tidak baik.

Kadangkala atas perasaan yang ibu mereka tidak adil terhadap mereka, anak remaja akan melakukan apa yang ditakuti oleh ibu bapa mereka.

Saya pernah bertemu dengan remaja yang berkata: 'Mak saya asyik tuduh saya buat perkara tak baik. Jadi lebih baik saya buat perkara tu. Puas hati saya!'

Tindakan dan pemikiran begini agak biasa di kalangan remaja.

Namun, anda perlu fikirkan kesan daripada satu-satu perbuatan yang anda ambil itu.

Saya sarankan agar anda memikirkan beberapa perkara berikut:



Sebagai seorang ibu yang prihatin dengan kesejahteraan anaknya, sudah tentu ibu anda berasa bimbang dan sentiasa dalam keadaan cemas melihat tingkah laku anda.

Seperti yang anda katakan, ibu anda semakin mengongkong pergerakan anda setelah membaca buku tentang helah remaja. Sebenarnya dengan membaca buku ini membuat ibu anda lebih prihatin terhadap anda. Ini kerana pemikiran ibu anda sebagai orang dewasa menyebabkan beliau berupaya memikirkan kesan-kesan daripada sesuatu tindak-tanduk.

Tambahan pula terdapat sikap orang-orang tua seperti ibu anda bahawa 'Biar anak menangis, jangan sampai kita orang tua (ibu bapa) yang menangis.'

Maksud dari sikap ini ialah anak-anak yang menangis kerana tidak mendapat sesuatu itu hanya sementara.

Orang tua pula akan menangis selalunya berpanjangan, apabila sesuatu tragedi menimpa anaknya.



Ibu anda telah banyak berkorban dalam membesarkan anda. Cuba anda fikirkan, ibu anda mempertarungkan nyawanya sewaktu melahirkan anda.

Malah, jika berlaku keadaan 'pilih satu antara dua' dalam proses melahirkan anak, seseorang ibu rela mati asalkan anaknya hidup.



Anda mempunyai seorang adik perempuan berusia 11 tahun. Segala tindak tanduk anda akan dicontohi oleh adik anda. Jadi anda harus menjadi 'role model' yang baik kepada adik anda.

Sebagai anak, menjadi tanggungjawab anda untuk sedapat mungkin memenuhi harapan ibu anda.

Ibu anda akan lebih tenteram, hidup bahagia dan berbangga seandainya anda melaksanakan tanggungjawab ini: Anak yang mendengar kata, patuh kepada ibu bapa dan taat pada Allah.

Saya juga ingin sarankan agar anda dapatkan bantuan pihak ketiga seperti mak cik dan pak cik, asatizah, kaunselor atau pekerja sosiot di pusat khidmat keluarga, melakarkan satu sesi perbincangan bersama ibu anda.

Akhir kata, saya dan pihak Ain sedia membantu anda dan ibu anda dalam perkara ini.

Hubungi kami di talian 6368-4464.



Nota: Soalan ini dijawab oleh seorang konsultan keluarga dari Persatuan Ain.