Perlu ke ada anak ramai? Jangan jadik mak bapak yg SELFISH!!!

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Perancangan Keluarga
Pengertian Perancangan Keluarga
Perancangan keluarga yang telah dibahaskan oleh para fuqaha’ mempunyai tiga pengertian iaitu:
1-Menghadkan bilangan anak dengan bilangan tertentu.
2-Merancang tempoh kehamilan seperti menjarakkan antara dua kehamilan tanpa menghadkan bilangan anak.
3-Menghilangkan kemampuan untuk hamil atau melakukan proses pemandulan.
Resolusi Muktamar Fiqh
Muktamar Fiqh kali kedua yang diadakan di Akademik Penyelidikan Islam Qahiran pada tahun 1968M dan Majlis Akademik Fiqh Islam telah memutuskan berkaitan dengan perancangan keluarga seperti berikut:
1- Islam menggalakan pertambahan penduduk kerana pertambahan penduduk akan dapat menguatkan umat Islam.
2- Perancangan keluarga dibolehkan apabila terdapat keperluan mendesak. Keharusan tersebut bersyarat teknik pengguguran yang digunakan itu adalah diharuskan oleh syara’.
3- Haram menggubal undang-undang yang mewajibkan rakyat membataskan atau menghadkan jumlah kelahiran.

cheron

cheron rasa.. "modern thinking"= anak nak byk tp tgk pada kemampuan...
"Fikiran Biasa" = anak yg lahir rezeki tuhan...

Tapi ALLAH bg anak utk kita jaga.... so syukur la pada ALLAH SWT klau dpt anak..ada org anak pun tak dapat2 sian plak... tp anak yg ramai smpai duit pun tak ckup utk besar kan dia pun tak guna jgak... ALLAH bagi kita manusia akal fikiran ada sebab nye.... klau ada antara kita yg pk anak ramai itu baik... sila kan lah.. dan klau ada yg beranggapan utk ada anak kena ada kemampuan pun sila kan.... tp in the end korang mesti tau ape bakal berlaku...sebab sebelum kita buat keputusan selalunya kita leh pk ape akan jadi....cuma kekadang manusia salah buat pilihan je.... ape pun tepuk dada tnye selera... hehe

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Islam menggalakan pertambahan penduduk kerana pertambahan penduduk akan dapat menguatkan umat Islam....
fieda07 Post at 26-12-2010 01:34

aku setuju ayat2 hang ni, quote la mn2 hukum pun. Itu bab buku.
Ini bab REALITI.  Carrying capacity sesuatu habitat tu macam mana pulak ?Boleh ka nak tampung?
Cuba hang kaitkan ini dgn situasi umat Islam di;

1. New York - yg dok sewa apartment bayar per week. apartment plg tinggi 3 bilik. Anak ada 6org.
2. Ampang - kubur Jln Ampang dh penuh, msg2 dok buat rumah kecik atas kubur.  In 10 yrs time, kubur Jln Ampang tu boleh pakai lg ka kalau msg2 kekal dgn kaedah binaan atas kubur masg2 & 1 fmly ada 6 org anak? Nk cari tanah kubur baru?  sapa nk bg?
3. Swiss: rumah plg standard 3 bilik. klu hang ada anak lebih dr 2 & duduk rumah yg ada bilik 2 sahaja. Hang boleh dikompaun oleh Local Authority. Bila jadi camni...  apa pendapat hang?
3. Pulau Tioman: rumah2 kg penuh dgn anak2 - sorang pakat ada 4-5 anak. Majoriti rumah ni pulak ada 3 generasi duduk (mak, anak, cucu), sbb tanah dah xdak. Yang tinggal rezab persekutuan/hutan simpan. Nk bg depa beranak sorang 6 anak lagi ka?Kalu depa plan , apa jatuh hukumnya ?

Ini semua kes2 kecik situasi semasa- Tioman adalah pulau, Ampang adalah daerah, ini 30 yrs time.. situasi pulau tu akan berlaku di negeri2 dan kemudian negara2.  Apa hujah hang?

reatt

2- Perancangan keluarga dibolehkan apabila terdapat keperluan mendesak.
fieda07 Post at 26-12-2010 01:34

1. apa takrifan keperluan mendesak bagi hang?
- nota : rezeki setiap dari kita Allah dh tentukan.

2. Contoh: pergi haji. Pasai pa ada kuota utk setiap negara? Kenapa ada visa haji ? Adakah dlm Al-Quran dan hadis pasai kuota & visa haji? Ikut suka la sapa2 nak pi ... buat apa nak dihalang org nk kerjakan haji? Kenapa majoriti dr umat Islam sekarang ikut sgt sistem kuota Al-Saud- apa masalhnyer kalau tak ikut... bukan ke rezeki kita kt Tanah Haram sana Allah dh tentukan?

Core

Reply 181# fieda07

I just need to quote two of the 3 sentences above:

1) "Islam menggalakan pertambahan penduduk kerana pertambahan penduduk akan dapat menguatkan umat Islam".
-Menggalakkan tapi bukan mewajibkan - Bolehkah kita conclude dari senarai2 ni yang Islam mengharamkan sebarang bentuk perancangan keluarga? No? Not sure?

2) Haram menggubal undang-undang yang mewajibkan rakyat membataskan atau menghadkan jumlah kelahiran
- Pihak yang diharamkan kat sini adalah pihak pemerintah, bukannya rakyat ok. Menyekat kelahiran memang bukan didalam tangan pemerintah kalau tak kita akan jadi seperti China yang menghadkan rakyat dia dari beranak lebih dari satu. Tapi rakyat bebas memilih utk merancang keluarga.

I'm just going to slice some of the chunks from this link which a discussion on family planning was discussed amongst some of the Islamic leaders. They  were Muhammad Ali al-Baar, Ali al-Saaloos, Muhammad Saeed Ramadhan al-Booti, Abdullah al-Basaam, Hasan Hathoot and Muhammad Sayid Tantaawi. Their proceedings, papers and discussions may be found in Part One of the Fifth Volume of Majallah Majma al-Fiqh al-Islaami (1988/1409 A.H.). These proceedings are 748 pages all about the question of birth control and related issues.

The only true provider for all mankind is Allah. If Muslims follow what Allah has prescribed for them, Allah will provide for them. Allah has warned about killing one's children out of fear of poverty for either parents or the child. Allah says: "Kill not your children because of poverty - We provide sustenance for you and for them" (al-Anaam 151)

So, adakah benar setiap nyawa yang lahir disertakan rezeki? Ya, benar.

Allah also says: "And kill not your children for fear of poverty. We shall provide for them as well as for you. Surely, the killing of them is a great sin" (al-Isra 31)

            

Hence, Muslims should never abort or kill their children out of fear of poverty. It is Allah who provides for them.

            

Based on the above points and numerous others, the scholars who participated in the research on this question came up with the following resolution:

1) It is not allowed to enact a general law that limits the freedom of spouses in having children.

-Yes, the government or rulers shouldn't be sticking their noses in trying to implement a law to limit child birth.               

2) It is forbidden to "permanently" end a man's or a woman's ability to produce children, such as by having a hysterectomy or vasectomy, as long as that is not called for by circumstances of necessity according to its Islamic framework.

            - ok, got it!
               
3) It is permissible to control the timing of births with the intent of distancing the occurrences of pregnancy or to delay it for a specific amount of time, if there is some Shariah need for that in the opinion of the spouses, based on mutual consultation and agreement between them. However, this is conditioned by that not leading to any harm, by it being done by means that are approved in the Shariah and that it not do anything to oppose a current and existing pregnancy.
- it means abortion,  even when it was still in a form of an embryo

Can a Couple Limit Their Children?
Question: Is it appropriate for a married couple not to have more than two children because of their limited economic resources? Is it acceptable that they take measures to prevent pregnancy after having had two children?

Answer: During the time of the Prophet, some of his companions tried to reduce the chances of conception and pregnancy, because they did not want any more children. The Prophet was aware of that. Some referred to him while some relied on the fact that no edict was given concerning the question of preventing pregnancy. The general rule is that "everything is permissible unless pronounced otherwise." Thus, we have statements by some of the Prophet's companions such as: "We resorted to contraception at the time when the Qur'an was being revealed", and "We resorted to contraception and the Prophet was aware of that but he did not stop us." These statements are clear in their import. If the Prophet's companions had been doing something unacceptable to Islam, God would have either revealed a prohibition in the Qur'an or the Prophet would have given an order in a Hadith.

            

The fact is that the Prophet did not give such an order. Instead, when he learned from one of his companions that he resorted to contraception, the Prophet said clearly that no method of contraception would stop the creation of a child, should God will that the child be born. As such, no method of contraception can stop God's will being fulfilled.

            

The method of contraception which was known at that time was coitus interruptus. Modern methods are equally permissible, provided that they are safe and they prevent conception. Sterilization of either the man or the woman is not permissible except when it is made absolutely necessary for medical reasons. Thus, if doctors determine that any pregnancy is likely to present a serious risk to the life of the mother, then sterilization may be approved. But each case must be considered separately on its own merits.

            

What I have said so far applies at the individual level only. A national policy of family planning which aims to reduce the population is unacceptable because it is likely to have serious repercussion on the health of the nation as a whole.

Coitus Interruptus
Question: You advised a young man to get married and delay having children until he has finished his studies. This obviously means that he has to resort to methods of birth control. In our community, most scholars say that birth control is not acceptable from the Islamic point of view. Please comment.            

Answer: In ancient times, before the new methods of birth control were invented, people resorted to coitus interruptus in order to restrict the number of children. This is a safe method, because it does not involve the use of any substance or chemical compound. It is a simple method which involves withdrawal before discharge. It is not highly effective, because some of the sperms may be released before the actual discharge. These could easily fertilize the female egg. This method was practiced in Arabia, as well in many other places. The companions of the Prophet mentioned it to him and asked him whether it was wrong. The Prophet did not forbid them that, but he told them that it could not stop Allah's work. If He wants us to create something, or in this case, if He wants a child to be born, the resort to contraception would not prevent the mother from getting pregnant.

            

We have reports from companions of the Prophet mentioning that he was aware of their resort to contraception, but he did not forbid them that.

            

In the light of the foregoing, we can say that using a safe and effective method of birth control is permissible, if it does not involve the use of a harmful substance. The couple must check with their doctor if a particular method is safe for them to use. If so, then they decide whether to use it or not.

to be continued.......

Core

Contraception and Sterilization

Question: I have four children and I am considering resorting to a sterilization operation to be done for my wife. She is thin and weak and can hardly cope with the demands of the family, especially during my prolonged absence, away from home to work here in Saudi Arabia. May I also say that my financial situation is not that bright. Indeed, I can hardly cope with the great demands placed on me.

Answer: Let us first of all deal with the financial aspect of this question. We know that Allah provides sustenance for everyone of His creation. I personally have experienced an improvement in my financial level with every child I have had. Indeed, that improvement was very tangible in the case of one of my children. Some people may not have such a tangible experience. It is true to say, however, that Allah will not neglect to provide sustenance for any human being. It is up to the breadwinner of the family to make use of the opportunities that Allah provides for him.


Having said that, I should also point out before attending to the question on sterilization that resorting to methods of contraception which are safe and do not affect the health of the mother is permissible. That must be kept at the individual level. By this I mean that a family may resort to contraception in order to limit the number of their children if they determine that such a thing is desirable in their particular circumstances. At the time of the Prophet, some of his companions resorted to coitus interruptus, which was the only method of family planning known to them, and the Prophet was aware of what they did. He did not instruct them to stop, nor did he tell them that what they did was forbidden. Therefore, it is permissible. Other methods of family planning have the same verdict provided they are safe.


Sterilization which involves a surgical operation is a special case. Unlike other methods of contraception it is permanent. Therefore it has to be viewed separately. Preventing pregnancy by surgery is known as sterilization which can be performed for either the husband or the wife. It is perhaps more accurate to say that we cannot make a general, sweeping statement in order to say that such an operation is either forbidden or permissible. Any surgery may be considered, from the strictly religious point of view, as required, recommended, discouraged or forbidden, according to the different circumstances of its person. If a highly competent doctor advises his patient that a certain operation will not only cure his illness but also prevents a speedy deterioration of his case, which is otherwise inevitable, then we can say that the operation is recommended. On the other hand, if there is no strong medical grounds for operating on a certain patient, but the doctor advises the operation only to get his fee, then the doctor commits a sin by giving such an advice.


In the case of sterilization, what we have to look for is the effect of pregnancy on the health of the mother. If a competent doctor determines that every pregnancy is likely to pose a real threat to the life of the mother or to cause serious threats to her health and that other methods of contraception may also have a bad effect on her health, then the woman may have such an operation without any qualm of conscience. It is permissible in her case. On the other hand, for a woman who asks her doctor to perform such an operation because she feels that a pregnancy may spoil her figure or having children may stop her from taking a lengthy holiday every few months, such an operation is forbidden.


In your particular condition, I do not think the reasons you have advanced for such an operation constitute a sound argument to justify the operation. Your wife may be thin and weak, but you can easily delay pregnancy by resorting to other methods of contraception. On the basis of what you say in your letter, you are only with your wife for a month or so every year. If you take adequate precautions, you can almost certainly prevent pregnancy. Therefore, the operation is not required on medical grounds. Hence, it cannot be lawful in your case.


source: http://www.missionislam.com/family/familyplanning.htm


From my understanding, family planning is very much an individual's decision, it is not the lawmakers' decision. It can be made into forms of advices or suggestions but cannot be concreted into a law which leads to punishment if not done so.

From these experts' point of view and the resolution that they have come out with, can we conclude that the fact that birth control of family planning is indeed allowed in Islam?

Ladies and gentlemen, I think we can.

fieda07

1. apa takrifan keperluan mendesak bagi hang?
- nota : rezeki setiap dari kita Allah dh tentu ...
reatt Post at 26-12-2010 09:43

- keperluan mendesak di sini lebih kpd faktor kesihatan smda kpd ibu @ anak..

dalam bab haji, tabung haji yg ditubuhkan oleh engku Aziz sebenarnya ialah badan @platform yg menguruskan peserta haji dgn kuota yg telah ditetapkn supaya ianya lebih teratur dan mempunyai jaminan keselamatan bagi memudahkan rakyat m'sia utk mengerjakan haji..kita bole mengerjakan haji secara persendirian dan tidak perlukan kuota..di mana dalam ibadah konteks haji sekiranya kita faham proses umrah dan haji itu yg melibatkn rukun dan syarat sah haji bole dilakukan dalam masa seminggu shj..namun terdapat juga segelintir individu yg mengerjakan haji persendirian atas visit pass..ibadah haji ialah ibadah yg bukan aulia spt ibadah solat..ibadah solat adalah ibadah yg tidak tertakluk kpd apa jua situasi yg wajib dilaksanakan dan tidak ada alasan utk meninggalkannya dgn sengaja dgn matlamat utk mengqadakannya kecuali keadaan yg dibenarkn oleh syara'

maksud berkemampuan mengerjakan haji di sini ialah keselamatan dan kecukupan yg meliputi kewangan, kesihatan, tempat tinggal, kenderaan, bekalan makanan, keselamatan dlm segala aspek (persekitaran haji di Mekah,cuaca, tggjwb kjn Arab Saudi yg menguruskan haji dll sudut)..kadang2 ada hikmah disebalik kuota ini diwujudkan..bersangka la baik kpd Allah sekiranya tidak dpt kuota mengerjakan haji dgn segera..hadis nabi yg sahih ada menyatakan para malaikat telah berbicara  bahawa pd thn ini seramai 500ribu org telah mengerjakan haji namun hanya 5org shj yg hajinya mabrur dan diterima oleh Allah..tetapi diatas barakah dan kemabruran serta ganjaran yg besar diiringi jaminan kemakbulan doa yg diucapkan oleh 5org tersebut dgn rahmat dan kasih sayang Allah telah menyelamatkan 495ribu org lain yg ibadah haji mereka turut diterima oleh Allah..wallahualam..

fieda07

apa sahaja yg ante semua bincang dan nyatakan barangkali ada benarnya dari sudut arus perdana pemikiran manusia sejagat..kerana sesungguhnya pemikiran manusia tidak sama dan jauh sekali dari pemikiran Allah s.w.t.. dan Allah swt telah berfirman sesungguhnya perbendaharan dan pengetahuanKu meliputi seluas langit dan bumi sekiranya air laut itu mnjd tinta tidak mencukupi utk menulis segala pengetahuanKu...

pada pandangan ana perancangan keluarga adalah dibenarkan oleh islam sekiranya niat ingin menjarakkan kelahiran hingga ke suatu tempoh tertentu(ini adalah hikmah menjarakkan kelahiran bg ibu bapa utk menyiapkan diri dr segi kesihatan,ekonomi,pendidikan dll) asalkan ia tidak secara kekal kecuali yang diharuskan oleh syara'...tetapi kemampuan memiliki anak yg ramai-kerana takutkan ketidakcukupan kewangan, tempat tinggal dll yang termasuk dalam faktor2 kemiskinan dgn menghadkan bilangan anak..adalah tidak dibenarkan islam..

ada hikmahnya terdapat hukum syara' yg ditetapkan oleh islam dalam isu perancangan keluarga..

sebaik-baiknya isu perancangan keluarga ini hendaklah dirujuk kpd institusi @ org yg lebih alim dalam agama yg terdiri dpd ulamak, ahli akademik, dai'e dan juga dr institusi pengajian islam formal di ipta terutama UIA,UKM dan UM, dan juga institusi formal lain spt bdn islam iaitu jakim, IKIM, majlis fatwa kebangsaan dan juga institusi yg tidak formal spt pondok @ madrashah yg telah mendapat pengikhtirafan majlis agama islam negeri..utk mengelakkan kekeliruan, penyelewengan dan pemahaman yg salah kerana dikhuatiri diancam oleh pemahaman islam yg bukan dr fahaman alsunnah waljamaah yg sdg melanda di negara kita iaitu fahaman syiah, islam liberal, islam sekular, islam neokonservatif dll..kerana hadis yg sahih telah menyatakan pada akhir zaman ada 70 kelompok/gol dan fahaman agama..namun yg diterima oleh Allah dan mendapat syurgaKu adalah alsunnah waljamaah..wanuzubillahiminzaliq

reatt

- keperluan mendesak di sini lebih kpd faktor kesihatan smda kpd ibu @ anak..

dalam bab haji, ...
maksud berkemampuan mengerjakan haji di sini ialah keselamatan dankecukupan yg meliputi kewangan, kesihatan, tempat tinggal, kenderaan,bekalan makanan, keselamatan dlm segala aspek (persekitaran haji diMekah,cuaca, tggjwb kjn Arab Saudi yg menguruskan haji dll sudut)..
fieda07 Post at 26-12-2010 11:10

1. Fikir faktor kesihatan mak & anak ni masa tgh pregnant, dalam labour room & dlm pantang saja ka?  mcm mana dgn:
i. selepas dah beranak & sementara nak tunggu baby tu boleh berdikari,
ii. faktor kesihatan fizikal & emosi anak2 yang lain yang dah sedia ada lagi 4 orang tu,
iii. faktor kemampuan bapaknya menyediakan persekitaran yang kondusif utk tumbesaran ke 6-6 org anak tanpa mengharapkan bantuan org lain,
iv. faktor kesihatan mental & fizikal emaknya selepas proses bersalin sementara menunggu anak2 tu bes?

Kita bincang bab situasi purata keluarga Melayu Muslim.
Kes laki businessman, bini laywer, lake doktor, bini auditor ... tolak ketepi sbb kita yakin mereka xdpt bantuan luar dlm membesarkan anak2.

2. sebab tu kuota ada & majority follow kuota:
atas isu "keselamatan dankecukupan yg meliputi kewangan, kesihatan, tempat tinggal, kenderaan,bekalan makanan, keselamatan dlm segala aspek"
masa nk p haji boleh consider isu2 ni, tp kenapa bab nak beranak xnak consider menda2 ni?

Core

Reply 188# fieda07

Hmmm....that's very loose and vague. If you were trying to take me for a spin, sorry, your kinda of twist is very amateurish.

Lady, did you read through the whole chunk of the link that I had laid out earlier? If not, what a big fat waste of spending my whole after 7 dawn today doing some digging when I can nicely daydreaming of horizontal me looking out to Ibiza sunrise.

I really wanna know, what's your take on that one? I mean, seriously, if you really really want to take it deeper, I suggest lets bury our heads right into the ground and start digging. Don't just choose and pick the ones that you easily play on with and abandon the rest that you think require more than just your 2 cents worth. Because people have other things to do. And so as you. And me.

Kill your prejudices, lady. Don't simply run blatantly, summing up all unconventional thoughts, putting them to the equation of secularism, pluralism, liberalism and God knows that else there is. Yes, its as simple as copy and paste kind of job but at least do it with accountability and integrity.

Come on, have your say. Let's have this is 4 square angles. In the edge of unlimited access to knowledge, we shouldn't be on the verge of clueless mode of doing the right things or things that we think are the right things to do.

Take your time but not too long cause everything that you ever need to know is right at a click. Otherwise, I would have to conclude that you are nothing but a mono.

BidadariAnggun

- keperluan mendesak di sini lebih kpd faktor kesihatan smda kpd ibu @ anak..

hadis nabi yg sahih ada menyatakan para malaikat telah berbicara  bahawa pd thn ini seramai 500ribu org telah mengerjakan haji namun hanya 5org shj yg hajinya mabrur dan diterima oleh Allah..tetapi
fieda07 Post at 26-12-2010 11:10

" Pd thn ini" tahun bila?

Core

Reply 188# fieda07

Fieda, aku dah cari link yang kau claim adalah link yg sama kau paste cuma dalam bahasa melayu tapi tak jumpa. Kalau betul kau letak content yang sama dgn apa yg aku letak, apesal kau masih berdolak dalih lagi. Kan ke dah jelas dalam link yg aku paste tu cakap pada zaman Rasulullah sendiri dah ada antara para pengikutnya yang mengamalkan perancangan keluarga secara coitus interruptus ni, senang cerita pancut luar atau ikut term aku sendiri, secara manual dan Rasulullah aware pasal tu tapi tak pulak baginda keluarkan apa2 fatwa atau hukum yang melarang mahupun menggalakkan. Asalkan tekniknya bukan dengan membunuh jasad yang telah ditiupkan roh.

Lagi satu, aku nak cakap kita tak semestinya ambik setakat sepotong ayat yang mengatakan Rasulullah mahu umatnya bertambah ramai tapi bukan setakat melahirkan anak tiap2 tahun tapi ia jugak bermaksud orang bukan Islam yang ditarik masuk Islam, itu pun dah bermaksud umat yang bertambah ramai.

fieda07

ALASAN YANG DIBENARKAN OLEH SYARA’

disini ana nyatakan pandangan fatwa yg diperjelaskan oleh ulamak tersohor terkini iaitu syeikh Dr Yusof Al-Qardawi dan Muhammad Saleh Al-Munajid utk tatapan dan pemahaman tentang isu ini..

Nabi Muhammad meminta umatnya berkahwin dan memperbanyakkan umat. Ia adalah objektif utama perkahwinan.

Islam juga menekankan pentingnya mendidik anak-anak bagi menjadi insan berguna dan menjadi pemimpin di masa hadapan. `Parenting’ memerlukan usaha dan perhatian bersungguh-sungguh daripada ibubapa. Sabda Nabi s.a.w ‘orang beriman yang kuat adalah lebih baik dari yang lemah’.

Islam membenarkan untuk `perancang keluarga’ dengan alas an yang kukuh :
1.Jika kehamilan ataupun bersalin boleh menyebabkan nyawa ibu terancam. Kriteria ini bergantung kepada bukti saintifik dan juga pendapat ahli perubatan yang ikhlas.

Surah Al-Baqarah, ayat 195 “..….. dan janganlah kamu menjatuhkan dirimu sendiri kedalam kebinasaan…..

Surah An-Nisa, ayat 29 “……. dan janganlah kamu membunuh dirimu; sesungguhnya Allah Maha Penyayang kepadamu”

2.Jika takut bahawa beban memelihara anak menyebabkan urusan keluarga terjejas sehingga kita membuat perkara yang haram kerananya
Surah Al-Baqarah, ayat 185 “..….. Allah mengkehendaki kemudahan bagimu dan tidak menkehendaki kesukaran bagimu ……

3.Jika takut bahawa kehamilan menyebabkan bayi yang baru lahir terganggu penyusuannya. Istilah bahasa Arab ialah `Ghellah’. Hadis nabi dari Abu Dawud : ‘Do not kill your children secretly, for Gheelah overtakes the rider and throws him from the horse.

Namun begitu, nabi tidaklah menghalang hubungan kelamin dengan ibu yang menyusukan anak. Kerana beliau menyedari bahawa orang-orang Farsi dan Rom melakukan perkara tersebut tanpa membahayakan nyawa bayi yang baru lahir; juga kerana takut menjadikan kesulitan kepada pihak bapa disebabkan tempoh penyusuan yg lama (2 tahun)

fieda07

4.Tidak menggunakan kaedah perancang kehamilan yang kekal (permanent) ataupun yang menyebabkan kemandulan. Adalah dibenarkan untuk secara sementara seperti untuk melambatkan kehamilan, cth 2 tahun atau selepas menyusukan anak 2 tahun.

5.Tidak menggunakan kaedah perancang kehamilan yang membahayakan kesihatan.

sumber:http://fiqhmedic.wordpress.com/2 ... rancangan-keluarga/

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Bukan semua NGO ada authority utk bagi penerangan utk family planning ni. Kalau ...
Core Post at 26-12-2010 00:56

Sangat sangat setuju with every single thing you wrote there...you're brilliant!

MANSTIR

Salam MANSTIR,

Hari ni aku baca reply ko pulak. &quotada pandangan aku, ko tak suka perubahan / cada ...
kiroshell Post at 26-12-2010 00:05

salam kiroshell,
kau dh tanya ke kt hangbuah, atau kau assistant dia utk jawab semua persoalan aku?
setahu aku org yg ikhlas buat kerja tentu dia tak mengungkit2 kerja2 dia, elok ke idak.. itu tanda dia ikhlas.. ni tidak!
dh dengar dengan teliti ke apa ustaz hassan din bagi ceramah tu?
ni aku bagi link Ustaz Dato' Abu Hassan Bin Din bagi ceramah, dgr dan elaborate sendiri untuk diri sendiri dan keluarga kau.. http://www.ceramahislam.com/audio-lectures.html tajuk dia - Syurga Di Luar Rumah... Damaikah?
pas dgr, meh kita berdiskusi secara ilmiah lak.. camne ok?
wasalam,
MANSTIR
p/s-suh org je dgr ckp ko, tp ko takmo dgr ckp org...

Lagi satu MANSTIR,

Aku rasa ko seorang yang kureng bijak sikit. Apa yang cuba disampaikan oleh Ha ...
kiroshell Post at 26-12-2010 00:15

salam kiroshell,

ewah2 sedap2 ko kata aku kurang bijak ye, takpelah.. daapat pahala dimalam hari...alhamdullilah..

TT (hangbuah) ada ckp "Perlu ke ada anak ramai? Jangan jadik mak bapak yg SELFISH!!!"
"Tapi soalan aku, perlu ke nak anak ramai2 sangat? Ramai di sini memanglah subjektif dan sangat relative. Tapi untuk mempermudahkan perbincangan aku definisikan ramai ni dalam konteks kehidupan dunia moden hari ini sebagai lebih daripada 4. Mungkin korang ada definisi yg berbeza, terpulanglah"

jawapan aku senang aja.... utk korang yg masih beranggapan kenapa tak perlu anak ramai.. meh aku citer sikit atau bak kata org bagi ubat sikit supaya sedar diri yg kau tu manusia biasa.
1.bila kita waktu muda mmgla sihat walafiat, masuk 33 mcm aku.. dh ade sikit2 tanda sakit2.. umur makin meningkat, itu tanda jangka hayat manusia semakin pendek. betul?
2.bila dh sakit, sape yg jaga? klu setakat demam, flu or sakit minor2 bolehlah diri sendiri jaga.
3.umur dh 40? bak kata Nabi s.a.w, umur bagi permulaan hidup, dalam nabi ckp begitu klu tak silap aku nabi pesan suruh beringat akan masa itu.
4.kau ensiden jah! aduh, camena jah? klu eksiden minor ok gak jah, klu major camno.. ekau nak mintak tolong bini ke jah? bini ekau sibuk ngan kojo.. anak2 tak ramai ada 1 or dua jo jah!(masing2 dgn kerjaya) aik! klu bini ekau tak kojo, larat ke jah dia buah sorang2 jaga ekau yg berat cam pinang sebatang tu.
5.jah kau tak eksiden ruponya, ko sakit jantung! oh tidak, ko sakit strok! oh tidak... sape nak jaga ko jah... ko sendiri? bini ko? anak2 ko? (semua sebuk jah, kojo) adus...
6.ko mati jah, sape nak uruskan? bini ko jah? anak2 ko jah? or jiran2 ?
7.sian ko jah, anak ko mana? diaorg ade doakan ko jah...

jawapan2 pendek aku kt atas tu, menerangkan kenapa perlu anak yg ramai.. hidup ko , ko sendiri tak tahu pangkal hujungnya... lagilah klu ko hidup selepas kematian anak dan isteri..atau lain2 lagi
klu tak silap aku, nabi s.a.w ada pesan, sihat sebelum sakit.. muda sebelum tua.. nilah aku nak katakan dari awal .. kita tak mampu menentukan takdir diri sendiri tapi org lain mampu membantu malah menyenangkan hidup kita dimasa depan. lebih2 lagi ada anak2 dan isteri...
ccontohnya:- cubalah dalam dunia ni ko hanya nak berkawan dengan sorang dua aja... tiba2 ko ditimpa masalah, siapakah org yg ko akan minta tolong? kawan2 ko yg dua org tu ke? atau org lain yg ko tak kenal?
kwn2 mungkin dlm keadaan tertentu dia boleh tolong tapi selalunya dia pon ada masalah diaorg tersendiri.. itu sebabnya kene ada ramai kawan..
cuma aku berpesan, hari ni mungkin hari org lain kene, esok lusa siapa tahu ekau lak kono jah...
wasalam,
MANSTIR
p/s-aku pernah menjaga kedua ibubapa aku, arwah mak kene canser dan arwah ayah aku kene strok (many times).. beringatlah kawan.. anak yg sorang(atau dua tiga) belum tentu dapat menjaga ko... sekurang2nya dalam ramai2 anak ko, ada sorang yg sanggup menjaga ko sehingga akhir hayat dan ke siratun mustaqim....
bagi yg tak pernah tgk org sakit eloklah selalu ke hospital..tgk camne anak2 org menjaga org2 tuanya, susah senang... nabi pon pesan ingat mati sebelum ajal.
ingatan utk aku, isteri dan anak2ku dan manusia sejagat

cmf_boe

TT..anak ni kurnian tuhan..bukan pasal nak ramai ke sikit..kalu nak ramai pon Dia bg sikit..tu kerja Dia..ade org yg takde anak pon bertahun2 kahwin..

Jd kalu org tu anak ramai ko nak salahkan ibu bapa or Tuhan yg meniupkan roh kepada anak itu?

haitt

MANSTIR, HAITT, korang nak mengatakan bahawa lahirkan anak ramai adalah hukum alam.

eh x la... pendapat aku lahirkan anak ramai ke anak sikit ke, x da anak ke bukan kt yg tentukan..semua Allah tentukan..
oleh itu jgn ckp sombong ttg benda2 yg di luar kemampuan manusia..

Core

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p/s-aku pernah menjaga kedua ibubapa aku, arwah mak kene canser dan arwah ayah aku kene strok (many times).. beringatlah kawan.. anak yg sorang(atau dua tiga) belum tentu dapat menjaga ko... sekurang2nya dalam ramai2 anak ko, ada sorang yg sanggup menjaga ko sehingga akhir hayat dan ke siratun mustaqim....
bagi yg tak pernah tgk org sakit eloklah selalu ke hospital..tgk camne anak2 org menjaga org2 tuanya, susah senang... nabi pon pesan ingat mati sebelum ajal.
ingatan utk aku, isteri dan anak2ku dan manusia sejagat

Ni dah sebut2 ni, ikhlas ke tak dulu jaga mak bapak kau ni? Kan ke kau cakap, kalau org ikhlas dia takkan ungkit2 apa yg dia pernah buat......

lwyl

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